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Don’t Bottle It All Up

We all know what happens when we take a jar or a bottle or even anything and we keep shoving things down in it, eventually it will all come exploding out. The same thing happens for people, when you keep pushing down anger or sadness or any kind of emotion like that, it’ll come out eventually. It may be something big that causes the eruption of emotions and it may be something quite small. No matter what the cause is, it’s important to not bottle it all up.

Psychologically speaking, bottling up or stuffing down our emotions isn’t healthy. There’s a reason therapy is so beneficial, oftentimes because people just need to speak about their emotions and get them out of their heads and bodies and into the world. Not to mention, communication with your loved ones is super important, and it’s usually them that cause these feelings to erupt at certain times.

There can be a lot of things that we may bottle up. We may hide our sadness at something and keep it hidden and whenever more is added, we just shove it down deep and pretend it’s not there. That’s effective, I suppose, for a little while, but at some point, that sadness is going to come up, and it’s going to cause you to break down crying whether at a broken nail or a commercial or something else. The same goes for anger. If you’re angry at someone about something they did, you can try to bottle it up, but if the behavior continues, you’ll find yourself exploding on them, and you may wind up saying things that you won’t be able to take back.

Luckily, there’s a simple cure to this problem. Don’t bottle it up. When someone says or does something that upsets you, you’re allowed to share that they did so. It’s not a bad thing to let someone know if they’re taking advantage of you or at least if that’s how they’re making you feel. One thing I’d definitely suggest is saying something along the lines of, “this makes me feel this way” because sometimes people don’t realize how their actions or words can make you feel. They may not realize that putting you in a certain situation makes you feel very uncomfortable and then that discomfort turns to anger towards them. Basically, you may take something as an attack or as them being inconsiderate, but if they’re unaware it’s an issue, they won’t be able to stop the behavior.

The only way to get these emotions out and work through them is by talking about them. You don’t have to have a therapist to do this either, call up a friend, grab a cup of coffee and just talk. And have those uncomfortable conversations. It may not be pleasant to bring this up to someone, but it’s necessary for your mental wellbeing.

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Journaling

Hey y’all so for this Wellness Wednesday, let’s talk about journaling. I am actually new to journaling. I kept a diary for a bit when I was a tween (I mean, what girl didn’t), but I never really got into that, and so when journaling really started becoming popular, I was iffy about it. Well, I am here to tell you that I am ready to give it a shot!

You may be wondering, what made me change my mind about journaling. First, as a psychology major, I try to keep up with things related to mental health, so that means anything new as far as ways to help improve your mental health, ways to relax, ways to rewire your brain in a positive way, I want to hear about it and learn about it. Journaling is no different, especially since there are many journals that guide you through the process and only take a few minutes out of each day. Studies are showing that journaling has a positive impact on reducing stress, helping you to let go of anxieties, and even rewiring your brain to think in a more positive manner. I mean, with all of that going for it, I figure, a little more positivity can never hurt!

I went ahead and bought two very different journals to get started. The first is a two minute morning journal. It’s designed to help you “win every day” and one of the ways it does that is by having you write down something you’re letting go of today. You also write what you’re grateful for, every single morning when you get up. They say, the more specific the better, and here’s where the sign behind that comes into play. When we focus on things we are lacking in our lives, we become a little more down about things, especially when bad stuff happens, and we forget all the great things we have. By putting those thoughts in your head first thing in the morning, you’re making your brain think about positive things and keeping it at the forefront of your mind right at the start of your day, which will help you have a more positive and upbeat attitude about things in the future, even if your day takes a turn for the bad. The second journal is a bit different in that it has several journeys for you to go on, thus providing journaling in different areas for your life for a long time. There’s a spiritual, achievement, humanitarian, mending fences, self-discovery, and more. I figured, that is definitely something worth exploring, even if you’re pretty certain you know who you are and what you believe or what you want out of life, taking a deeper look could help clarify some things for you.

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So give journaling a try, if it’s not for you, no harm done, but if you find it helps you out in any way, even if it’s just giving you some time to sit down and unwind, then it was definitely worth it.

Get Your Steps In!

I think by now we all know how important exercise is. However, did you know the reasoning behind getting in your 10,000 steps a day? Of course, most of us have heard of this goal, but we may not know the reasoning behind it. Luckily, I pulled that information, so you now know why you need to get your steps in!

As with most forms of exercise, getting your steps in is not just to torture you, there are real health benefits to it. So check them out and start walking!

  • Increased flexibility. That’s right, just walking can help with that, though I definitely suggest adding something else on too to help keep those muscles loose.
  • Burn fat. It’s a form of working out, so of course, by getting those 10,000 steps you are burning calories and fat.
  • Promote good digestion. This one may be a bit surprising, it’s actually not something I had known about previously.
  • Relieves stress. Especially now that we are getting into cooler weather, there’s nothing like a nice walk outside in the brisk fall air to help you get out of your head and let go of some of that stress.
  • Increases energy. All forms of exercise give you more energy after to tackle what’s left of your day, so make sure you hit those step goals!
  • Improves posture. This one is important for soo many reasons, the top one being, you don’t want to see a chiropractor once a week for the rest of your life! So stop slouching and get walking!

There have also been a few studies showing women especially are less likely to suffer from medical issues if they get their 10,000 steps a day. So ladies, and gents, please make time for this, and use a tool to help you know if you got your steps. If you have an Apple watch or Fitbit, check those stats! If not, pedometers and other fitness trackers are cheap, and easy to use 🙂

Talk It Out

Keep yourself from reaching a mental breakdown point by finding a trusted family member or friend who you can talk to about everything going on. Bottling up your emotions can lead to breakdowns later, it’s easier to talk it out.

You Will Be Found

Dear Evan Hansen,

Today’s going to be a good day, and here’s why: I laughed, I cried, and I watched in amazement as a truly remarkable cast brought this show to life.

For those who haven’t seen Dear Evan Hansen, let me first say, go see it, it’s phenomenal and amazing, and second, if you don’t want a summary of the show, stop reading now.

Alright, for those who have continued, be warned, I am about to unleash my inner theatre nerd.

Let’s start with the cast. I happened to see the touring cast when they rolled into a city near me, and it was remarkable. Our Evan was played by Noah Kieserman, and let me just say, this man’s voice, his acting chops, everything is phenomenal. The range he has and his ability to channel this character and all the little ticks, how his hands shook just right, and how much he gave to this show, well done, and thank you. To the rest of the cast, Jared Goldsmith, Phoebe Koyabe, Maggie McKenna, Jessica Phillips, Christiane Noll, and Aaron Lazar, you guys exemplified that less is more. With a very small cast, I was transported into this world and enthralled the entire time. Bravo to each and every one of you, to say it was a phenomenal show is an understatement.

The set, like the cast, was small, but had everything needed. We were all so focused on what was happening in Evan’s life and his little web of lies that you didn’t need a lot of extra props or different things taking away from the drama that was unfolding. At one point, a simple stage with a couch in the center was enough.

The story was poignant, addressing so many issues, and in such a wonderful way. We have troubled teens, teen suicide, anxiety, single parenting, financial struggles, relationship struggles, friendship dynamics, and so much more, and none of it felt overdone. It felt real, it felt raw, but more than that, it felt relatable. It felt like this could be happening all around us, if we only knew to look. Beyond that, the way it tied social media into it was even more resounding in this day and age where social media takes up so much of our lives, but especially the highlight reels, the things that we want to share, to the point where if you don’t feel like you have much to share, you may just be tap tap tapping on the glass, waving through a window hoping someone could see you.

The struggles that Evan goes through with his anxiety are handled beautifully, especially the point where he is no longer on his meds because he’s too busy out there living his life, he’s too busy to be worrying about all the things that could possibly go wrong. The struggle that his single mom goes through trying to do it all, and failing because we can’t all do everything, it’s relatable, and so is his side of wishing he had his mom there to just be a mom. Single parenting is never a simple thing, and I know from experience that moms will do their absolute best, but will struggle knowing they can’t provide their kids the world all the time. And the pain of seeing someone else be able to do that is never easy on any parent. Basically, this show takes on a lot of tough, but real situations that we are faced with daily, and could not have shown them any better, while always leaving you with this resounding knowledge that no one deserves to disappear, and that you will be found.

In this day and age, this message is more important than ever, and I spotted several mental health wins within this show. It was a beautiful performance, and I truly hope that if you are given the chance to see this show anywhere, that you take the opportunity. With wonderful music and just enough humor to counteract the darkness, you’ll never be left feeling sad, but always hopeful, always knowing that things change and go on.

So, go see the show if you can, it’s beyond worth it, and was absolutely wonderful.

Sincerely,

Me

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