Take one thing in your day to day activities and change it up. It doesn’t have to be something big, you can even just change how you drive in to work, just mix up your routine a bit.
Self-worth doesn’t come from anything but you, so don’t let outside influences make a difference in how you feel.
No one is perfect, no not even your neighbor who seems to have it all together. I know so much of our time spent is trying to be a perfect person, with the perfect life, but that’s just not reality. So instead, let’s try to embrace imperfections.
I’ve always been a perfectionist, even when I was a kid. I strived to get all A’s in school, be amazing at whatever sport I tried, etc. I’m still an overachiever, and I did manage to get A’s in school, but I didn’t get all A’s. In fact, I nearly got a C in Geometry Honors, and that truly crushed me in high school because it didn’t fit the image of this perfect girl I was trying to be. I colored my hair, because in my mind, being blonde was more perfect than being a brunette. I also started straightening my hair every day, because again, in my mind, straight hair meant perfection. I can’t really explain to you how that worked, but I can say I have learned since then to embrace the imperfections. I went back to my natural hair color, and now, if I want a change, it’s because I want to try a new color, not because blondes are somehow more perfect than brunettes. I learned to embrace my naturally wavy hair. It’s not perfect, it gets frizzy, and it fights me on styles certain days, but that’s ok. It’s me, it’s what I was given to work with, and it’s not always perfect, but it’s a part of myself.
I feel like sometimes we get so caught up in giving off this appearance of perfect that we lose ourselves. Society puts so much pressure on us, especially this time of the year, to be perfect with the holidays. Holidays are messy, there’s family in town, so things are more high-stress and things get broken, and things don’t go quite as planned, and maybe your Christmas light display isn’t as grand as the one next door. That doesn’t mean it’s bad, that doesn’t mean you failed Christmas. If you burned a batch of cookies, that’s ok, it happens to the best of us. If you forgot to make the vegetables along with the rest of the main meal, it happens. Just learn to roll with those moments and embrace the imperfections. Maybe you burned the cookies because you were out building a snowman and lost track of time. That to me sounds more perfect than missing out on that amazing memory to have a nice batch of cookies.
Life is messy, there’s so much of it that we can’t control, and that can make us all want to have these picture-perfect moments. But I can tell you, some of the strongest memories for me, they weren’t in picture-perfect moments, they were in messy moments, moments where things got forgotten because we were spending time as a family or moments where, the most important thing was a family game of football, not how perfectly decorated the house was. Enjoy the mess. It’s those little moments that make up a big, beautiful life.
We all know how important it is to sit back, reflect, and look back at life choices and mistakes. That’s all well and good, until you get caught up looking backwards in life that you forget to look and move forward. I know a lot of people who are struggling with this, especially if they are not in an area they want to be, it’s hard for them to have hope for the future.
One of my friends is not happy in her job, it requires a lot of phone calls, which is not her jam, and is very taxing on her right now. I know someone else who is potentially in danger of lay-offs in the coming year. Then there are those who are still stuck on exes or who don’t really think life could be as good as it was 2 years ago. All of those issues are completely valid, but the only way to get through them is to stop looking backwards and start looking forward.
You know the story, A Christmas Carol? Super fitting at this point in time, but not just for the obvious reasons. So Scrooge gets visited by three ghosts, Christmas Past, Present, and Future. He needs these ghosts to show him what went wrong with his life. Now, he also needs them to show him that if he keeps looking back and not making any progress, he won’t change his future. But, if he looks towards the future, and makes changes, and starts moving forward each day, his future will change.
We can look back to learn from mistakes or see how we were in the past, but that’s it. We can’t go back in time and make changes, we have to start moving forward from where we are currently. So take a minute, and evaluate things. Are you happy where you are? Or do you want to make some changes? If you want things to change, you have to let go of what was in the past or learn to embrace it, and move forward. Moving forward is the only way to make changes and have all of those new and wonderful Christmas Futures.
I think we all could take a few moments to be more considerate, especially through this holiday season.
It’s hard not to compare yourself to others, we do it even subconsciously, so try to make a conscious choice to only compare yourself to you. Make yourself better, don’t focus on where everyone else is in their journey.
For this Thought of the Day, write down your dreams, big, small, and don’t let them go. It’s never too late to start chasing your dreams.
Adulting can be hard, so find a good outlet. Join a club, volunteer, join a sports league, take a yoga class. Whatever you enjoy doing, find a group that also enjoys it. You’ll make new friends, and improve yourself.
Start each day fresh. What happened yesterday is no longer relevant, and what happens tomorrow hasn’t happened yet, so don’t worry about it. Just live in today, and start each sunrise on a fresh note.