We’ve all heard it at some point. “You need to just ask him out, if you’re interested just go for it.” Well, pretty sure we all know that’s easier said than done. There are so many reasons to hesitate with doing that. Maybe he’s not asking me out because he’s not interested, maybe he’s just being nice, maybe he’s just being friendly, I don’t want to change our friendship, I don’t want to be rejected, etc., etc. The list really can go on and on for all the reasons not to just go for it and shoot your shot. But here’s the problem: if you never ask, you never know what the answer is. So you can work it all out in your head and decide that it wasn’t meant to be, but if you never try, you never actually know. And while I think it’s great that we seem to think we know people, reality is, we don’t. People can be extremely hard to read, especially when it comes to relationships. So you may think you know what they’ll say, but people can surprise you. Happens to me all the time.
The Timing Isn’t Right
How often have we told ourselves that it’s just not the right time, and maybe if things were different…Well, that’s all good, except when is the right time? When everything in your life is working out perfectly and you have no worries in the world? If you live a life like that, then I envy you a bit. Because I can say for sure that nothing has ever been the right time in my life. There’s always something going on, whether it be me starting a new job, or a semester ending or house hunting. Generally, as people, we’re all busy. We all have lives and different commitments that we have to deal with. Does that mean that you shouldn’t go for it anyway and see what happens with that person you like? No, it just means if you like them, and they’re important to you, you’ll make the time. If you don’t, then you probably didn’t like them that much. But I can pretty much guarantee that if you’re waiting for the right time to ask someone out, there won’t be a right time. Just give it a shot, and see what happens.
They’re Moving Or You’re Moving
So you waited a while, became friends with the person, and now one of you is moving, so even though you were going to make your move, now you’re not. First of all, there is this thing called long distance, and if you both really want it, you’ll make it work. It’s definitely not the easiest thing, but it can be done, especially if you have that friendship to back it up. And while we like to pretend we have our futures planned out, plans change, unexpected things happen, and you may wind up closer to them or vice versa. Unless you have a crystal ball, you don’t know how things are going to play out, so don’t act like you can. When we make plans, God laughs. Remember, it’s all under control, just not yours.
They’ll Never Notice Me
Well not with that attitude they won’t! Reality is, I’ve spoken with people from my past who I thought had no interest in me, because they never made a move, and neither did I, and I just figured they didn’t notice me. And you know what I found out? I was wrong, they did notice me, they just were afraid to say something or didn’t think we wanted the same things. Unfortunately, sometimes when you shoot your shot you will miss. And that’s nothing on you or the other person, it’s just life. Sometimes, you just want different things. And maybe in the future that’ll change, or maybe it’s not meant to be. But when you wait years to actually come forward and say that, you’re pretty much ensuring that nothing will happen. Yeah, I spoke with some of these guys, and it was an enlightening conversation, but that doesn’t change the past. The chance that was there, is no longer relevant, because neither of us decided to give it a shot.
Long story short: don’t be afraid to shoot your shot. I recently did, and who knows what will come of it, possibly nothing, I’m not sure yet. All I know is, at least I tried, and I won’t be left wondering what if? I hate to wonder what could have happened if I was just a little braver, if I had just gone for it. Yeah, things can get awkward sometimes when you shoot your shot, but hey, you got your answer then. I’m the type of girl who’d rather know where I stand, rather than to wonder and have to guess. And, I’ve heard from the guys I work with, that they don’t mind when a girl asks them out, because sometimes, they think you’re out of their league, and they won’t even try, even if they think she may be interested. So, if you’re interested in someone or just want to get to know someone better, go for it. Shoot your shot and see what happens. It may be the little push that’s needed to get your love story going.