We’re officially over halfway through the year now, and it would be a big understatement to say a lot of things have changed. In fact, we’re all still adjusting to this new normal, and as cases climb here in Florida, I can tell you, I haven’t really left quarantine, which puts me on about Month 4 of staying inside, barely leaving the house, and not really seeing friends or family.
I’m not going to lie, it hasn’t been an easy adjustment. One of my closest friends lives in Georgia, and another moved to LA earlier this year right when coronavirus was getting big in the US, so I haven’t had a lot of people close by to hang out with anyway, but I had started getting into a tradition of meeting up with one of my friends who lives across the state. Obviously, we don’t get to do that anymore, as the place we used to meet wasn’t open, and now it’s still too big of a risk to meet up. She has a daughter I’d hate to get sick, and I live with someone immune-compromised, so there’s no feasible way for us to get together right now. It’s hard, even when you’re used to not seeing your friends on a daily basis, it’s really tough to not be able to send a text and go meet for a coffee or plan a big Disney day. Sure, these are little things, but they were big parts of my old life.
In the past, if I was needing to get out of the house, I could go pretty much anywhere. I could go to the beach, go to the mall, go see a movie, meet up with friends, go to a theme park, restaurant, the list goes on and on. Now, that’s just not the case. Our lives have changed, in a massive, sudden way, and we had no real warning. Many of us expected this to be taken seriously by everyone, and unfortunately, that’s not what we’re seeing, which is making this virus continue to take hold and keeping us from returning to our old normal.
Now, in some cases, the old normal wasn’t so great. I am not going to lie, I really enjoy being able to work from home full-time now. I get to save money, I have more time in my day, and quite frankly, I get more work done because there are less distractions and random things I needed to do around the office. It’s also been nice to have some extra time to work on the house. We moved right at the beginning of this, so I’ve had plenty of time to set up the house the way I want it, as well as do small little improvements that needed to be done around the house. In the past, some of these things may not have gotten done for months simply because I wouldn’t have had the time.
But there, are definitely things in the old normal that we all are missing and grieving. For many of us, it’s still very much unknown when things will return to normal and when we will feel safe doing some basic things like flying in an airplane or going to see a theatre show. Theatre was one of my favorite things, and there was supposed to be a great show line-up for this year. Sadly, it doesn’t seem like I’ll get to see a show in person again this year. And you know what, that’s okay, I understand it’s for the safety of everyone involved, and to me, that’s more important than seeing a show. However, that doesn’t mean I can’t miss it. Same goes for concerts. Some artists are doing drive-in concerts, which that may become our new normal, it’s so hard to say. I personally don’t think that’s going to match mingling with others beforehand and tailgating, but again, it’s something that we must do for our safety, so we’ll adjust. But it’s going to take time.
If you find yourself missing some parts of your old life, that’s perfectly normal. It’s ok to miss going out to eat with a big group of friends. It’s normal to be struggling with some of the new things that we have to do. And it’s certainly normal to be struggling with all the extra time you have and missing your social life. I get it, most everyone I know gets it. But until things normalize again, we just have to focus on the positives and keep pushing through this. I do believe we will come through this, I do believe we will find a cure or a vaccine at least to allow us to get back to our lives. But I also believe we need to come together for that to happen, and unfortunately, there’s not a lot of that in the news right now. So mourn what your life was, but try to embrace the new normal and the good things that come with it as well. Get a new hobby, read more books, design your backyard paradise. Enjoy the time we have with family if you’re quarantining with them. The main thing this virus is teaching us is that life is so completely unexpected and uncontrollable, the one thing we can control is ourselves and how we react to situations. So react with kindness. Mourn what you had, but look forward to the future. Look for ways to help others. And please, so we all can get through this faster, wear a mask.