We all know what happens when we take a jar or a bottle or even anything and we keep shoving things down in it, eventually it will all come exploding out. The same thing happens for people, when you keep pushing down anger or sadness or any kind of emotion like that, it’ll come out eventually. It may be something big that causes the eruption of emotions and it may be something quite small. No matter what the cause is, it’s important to not bottle it all up.
Psychologically speaking, bottling up or stuffing down our emotions isn’t healthy. There’s a reason therapy is so beneficial, oftentimes because people just need to speak about their emotions and get them out of their heads and bodies and into the world. Not to mention, communication with your loved ones is super important, and it’s usually them that cause these feelings to erupt at certain times.
There can be a lot of things that we may bottle up. We may hide our sadness at something and keep it hidden and whenever more is added, we just shove it down deep and pretend it’s not there. That’s effective, I suppose, for a little while, but at some point, that sadness is going to come up, and it’s going to cause you to break down crying whether at a broken nail or a commercial or something else. The same goes for anger. If you’re angry at someone about something they did, you can try to bottle it up, but if the behavior continues, you’ll find yourself exploding on them, and you may wind up saying things that you won’t be able to take back.
Luckily, there’s a simple cure to this problem. Don’t bottle it up. When someone says or does something that upsets you, you’re allowed to share that they did so. It’s not a bad thing to let someone know if they’re taking advantage of you or at least if that’s how they’re making you feel. One thing I’d definitely suggest is saying something along the lines of, “this makes me feel this way” because sometimes people don’t realize how their actions or words can make you feel. They may not realize that putting you in a certain situation makes you feel very uncomfortable and then that discomfort turns to anger towards them. Basically, you may take something as an attack or as them being inconsiderate, but if they’re unaware it’s an issue, they won’t be able to stop the behavior.
The only way to get these emotions out and work through them is by talking about them. You don’t have to have a therapist to do this either, call up a friend, grab a cup of coffee and just talk. And have those uncomfortable conversations. It may not be pleasant to bring this up to someone, but it’s necessary for your mental wellbeing.