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What Happened to Halloween?

What Happened to Halloween?

Hey y’all, so anyone who knows me knows that I absolutely love the holidays. And I don’t just mean Christmas, I mean ALL holidays, Easter, July 4th, Halloween, Thanksgiving, etc. I love how holidays have a way of bringing people together, and giving us something to celebrate or enjoy, especially in the random chapters of our lives. Plus, there’s always some magic to any holiday. What’s been bothering me lately though, is how we (collective we as a society) seem to rush through holidays and only really focus on the main one, Christmas. I mean, I don’t know about y’all, but Thanksgiving, a holiday focused on things we are thankful for, and a big feast, is pretty important to me. Again, I love Christmas, but I think our holidays should be enjoyed, as each one comes and goes. Which is why I have to ask, two days before the spookiest holiday around, what happened to Halloween?

Halloween is one of those holidays that kids love, but I love decorating for it as an adult. I loved dressing up and getting candy as a kid, but there’s just something cool to me about going to a pumpkin patch and picking out the perfect pumpkin to carve. Or finding those bales of hay that just smell like fall. Not to mention, answering the door for trick or treaters and seeing all the frightening ghouls and goblins that grace the neighborhood.

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But it seems to me that, as society dictates, despite the fact that Halloween is not even here yet, we are already over it. All of the stores have already discounted all of the Halloween decorations at 50% off and are pretty much sold out, and Christmas trees have already taken their place. Excuse me, no. Just no. We have not even hit November yet! Don’t get me wrong, getting my mummy cat decoration at half off was great, but I remember when my parents and I would go the day after Halloween to the stores to get all the deals. Nothing was on sale until November 1st, because until then, that was the holiday we were focused on. Not Christmas. But now, we haven’t even hit that hallowed day, and it’s already in the past.

I feel like we didn’t have that build up to Halloween. I mean, for goodness sakes, they had decorations for Halloween in July! Come on guys! That’s a little ridiculous, July is still summer. We haven’t even entered fall, and yet you’re already pushing pumpkins down our throats? What ever happened to enjoying the holidays and the season you’re in? I decorated for fall at the beginning of October, but the final Halloween preparations happened this week. And guess what, for Christmas, I won’t decorate until December. Because, I have a holiday in between, and I plan on enjoying the rest of this beautiful fall weather (yes Florida is actually on par with the season lately, and it’s amazing). After Halloween, I plan on keeping out some of the fall decorations, while packing up Dante (no worries, I included a pic) and my mummy cat the day after until next October.

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Everything in life is so go, go, go, and we’re always looking to the next big thing, rather than just enjoying the season we’re in. And that’s one way to live, but I guess I just prefer a little more laid-back. I want to enjoy the present, and while looking towards the future is great, it’s important to live in the moment and cherish what’s happening right now. Because sometimes, you get so carried away preparing for the future, that when you look back, you don’t have as much to remember in the past. I don’t want that. I want to have lots of wonderful memories, in all seasons. And yes, I am one of those people who had a life plan, and a timeline for when everything was supposed to happen. And guess what, God has His own timeline, so you may as well just sit back and enjoy the time you’re in right now. Planning for the future is great, but you have to enjoy the present at the same time. So let’s keep Halloween, as it is, and remember on Tuesday, that this is Halloween, not pre-Christmas season.

 

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Ways to Wear Your Lilly Into Fall

I love fall. It’s the start of cold weather, holiday flavored beverages, and the holidays. A time meant for being with family and being thankful for everything that God has blessed you with. Leaves are changing, so are clocks, and so is fashion. Sadly, when we come into fall, we have to say goodbye to our summer wardrobe. As a Florida girl, I love Lilly Pulitzer styles. They’re lightweight and cute, and perfect for the mostly year-round heat we experience. But on those occasional days when it does cool down, I still want to be able to wear my Lilly. So here are some tips on ways to wear your Lilly into fall.

  1. Wear darker prints. We know Lilly Pulitzer is known for her bright prints, but some of her prints do use darker colors in the mix or as the base. As we move into the fall and winter months, switch to your more muted Lilly’s and leave the hot pinks and yellows for spring.
  2. Add a cozy cardigan. Most of Lilly’s items are short-sleeved or lightweight, because the brand was designed in Florida. So for those days when we get a bit of a nip in the air, especially in the mornings and at night, add a cozy cardigan to keep warm.IMG_1145
  3. Wear with boots! I love boots, they’re cute and comfy and go with just about everything. Including, those long sleeve Lilly dresses. So pair up a few, and you have a great wardrobe for work even in the fall months, without having to go buy more clothes.IMG_1139
  4. Mix with darker pieces. For those days that you absolutely can’t resist throwing on that hot pink and navy blue print, pair with a pair of navy pants or a skirt, something to help mute the outfit. This way, you can still wear your summery prints, without looking too much like you don’t know what season you’re in.
  5. Go tropical! If all else fails, or you just hate cold weather, go hide from it on a tropical island where it is summer all the time. No one there will bat an eye at your brightly colored Lilly.

In all seriousness though, there are so many great ways to add Lilly into your fall wardrobe, including accenting your outfit with a stylish scarf. As much as I love shopping and buying new pieces, I also love saving money, and this is a great way to spruce up some fall/winter outfits, all with items already in my closet.

 

The 2/3 Rule

When I was in college, my sorority Big and I had a fashion rule. It was something we held ourselves accountable for, partly because we represented a bigger group of girls on campus, and we wanted to always look well-dressed and ready for whoever we could meet. Not to mention, you never know who you are going to see on a college campus, and any moment can turn into networking in no time. So because of this, we had what we called the 2/3 rule.

So ideally, there are three pieces to your full wardrobe each day. Your hair, makeup, and outfit. So we both felt, unless you were going to the gym or the dr because you’re legit sick as a dog, that it was important to ensure that every day, at least 2/3 of those pieces were done well. So for example, if your outfit wasn’t that great, maybe you have an 8 am class, maybe you’re just running to target after cleaning the house, that you would still have your hair either straightened or nicely done, just not thrown up in a bun or ponytail, and you would at least have some makeup done. So your outfit didn’t have to be spectacular, but you still look presentable.

My Big had long curly hair, and I have long thick hair, so bad hair days were sadly inevitable for both of us. On those days where we just couldn’t do anything more for our hair other than put it up in a ponytail and admit defeat, we made sure that our makeup was done (and I don’t mean the whole shebang, I usually just wear a tinted moisturizer, eyeliner, mascara, and a lip gloss; none of that contouring stuff) and that our outfit looked cute. Again, I don’t mean a super cute dress and heels, but I mean we didn’t go out and about in sweatpants. Honestly, unless it was part of a costume, I didn’t leave my apartment in sweatpants. That’s just a no in my book, at least out in public.

The reason that we came up with this was because we both feel that appearances are important. Did you know that first impressions are made within seconds? Literally, the blink of an eye. And while it’s nice to think that we can improve upon people’s first impression, it’s actually harder to do that than you’d think. According to an article from http://www.apa.org/gradpsych/2012/11/first-impressions.aspx, “You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression,” says James Uleman, PhD, a psychology professor at New York University and researcher on impression management.” That means, that no matter how impressive you are to someone after the fact, they will always have that first impression that created their very first opinion of you. I personally want my first impression on people to be that I put effort into things. Think about it, if you don’t put any effort into how you present yourself, why would a potential employer think you’d put effort into a job? Or how about a professor on your first day of class. Are they going to have a good impression if you show up looking like you rolled out of bed? Taking time to make yourself presentable is a form of respect to others. You’re showing them that you respect them, their time, and their effort.

Now, don’t get me wrong, some days we all slip up. I’ve definitely wandered outside of my house in yoga leggings before, and without any makeup on. It’s a rule we made up years ago, but it’s one I still strive to follow through on. Of course, like anything, I’m not perfect and sometimes I fall short, but the important part is to try. Which is why, if you manage to have your hair done nicely, makeup, and a cute outfit, you’re even better off. If not, worst case, try to have two out of three. First impressions matter.

Opening Your Heart Again

Breakups suck. Sometimes they suck when you weren’t even dating someone, but that almost relationship still hurts. But even harder than just surviving the breakup, is opening your heart again after the fact. I mean, we all know that heartbreak is a fact of life, but sometimes it can be hard to let someone in, especially after we’ve had a particularly hard breakup.

I personally think that’s part of the problem with modern dating. Everyone’s so big on keeping things casual so they don’t get hurt, but the reality is, you can still get hurt. Whether you’ve fallen for your best friend and it’s not reciprocated, or you just broke up with someone that you’d been dating for 3 years, it can be hard to start all over again. As humans, we aren’t that great at dealing with change. In fact, I’d say most of us will say we’re good with change, but only the change we want. Otherwise, we resist the change, and want nothing to do with it. But the fact of the matter is, whether you let someone in or not, at least consciously, you can still get hurt. They can still leave you or cheat on you or ghost you. As much as you’d like to control how other people feel, it’s not something that’s in your power, and that means that they have the ability to hurt you. Which makes it hard to open yourself up to someone new, and makes it hard to jump back on the horse, so to speak, and back into the dating pool.

Even if you’ve been single for a while, it can be hard to open yourself up to someone. You’ve adjusted to your life the way it is, you have your friends, your job, your habits, and bringing someone else into that means adjusting. It may mean that instead of Saturday snuggling with your dog, you have date night. It may mean that you have to go out on nights that you’d rather be doing something else to go support someone else or meet his friends. That’s a lot, especially if you’ve fallen into a routine that you’re comfortable with. We all love our comfort zones, but sometimes it’s important to leave it. Sometimes, you have to leave it if you really want to let someone in, and that can be scary, and it can be difficult.

As scary as it is to open your heart again, sometimes it’s just necessary. So next time you meet a cute guy at a bar, swallow your fear, and go say hi. I’m telling you from personal experience, sometimes it can work out in your favor. And yeah, it’s scary to try something new, but you’ll miss every shot you never take. So take a shot, give it a try, and see what happens. If it doesn’t work out, then just tell yourself it wasn’t meant to be. But getting out there, will help you get over the fear of letting people in. Reality is, you’re always going to get hurt if you love someone, but a life without love isn’t worth living.

Fall 2017 Fab Fit Fun Box

Fall 2017 Fab Fit Fun Box

There are very few things I subscribe to. Netflix, FabFitFun, and a few other things are pretty much all I subscribe to. Normally, I wouldn’t have even gotten into the subscription boxes, because they normally are just sample sizes or things I don’t ever use, so I never saw the purpose. I have been getting the Fab Fit Fun box for over a year now, and not only are the products full-size, but they are also things I actually use! For $50 a box, that makes it definitely worth it for me.

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So I decided to give you guys a breakdown of what came in this Fab Fit Fun box.

  1. An adorable gym bag. Mine says “Gym & Juice” and while the other choice is cute, “Will Work Out for Cupcake” I’m pretty happy with mine.
  2. Mohr Charcoal teeth whitener kit. I am super excited to try this, as I’ve been a little bit afraid to try one from the store due to all the chemicals in it. This one is all-natural, so I feel much better about giving it a try. And since I love holiday coffee drinks, I could definitely use a brighter smile.
  3. Trestique lip crayon. It’s a gorgeous pink matte color that is perfect for fall. And you can never go wrong with a dark pink.
  4. Heart shaped jewelry holder. It’s rose gold, keeping it super trendy, and it’s just adorable.
  5. Deco cuticle oil. After my minor hand surgery, my cuticles are a mess. So I am all for something to help them out, especially as weather is supposed to turn colder. Florida girl, remember?
  6. Whish renewing mud mask. I’ve actually never tried a mud mask. Face masks, yes, never mud. So I’m interested to see how many years younger I look after it 🙂
  7. Hot and cold gel pack. Sprain your ankle? Pop this in the freezer, and you’ll be better in no time. Have a horrible backache? Put it in the microwave and relax.
  8. Black B-Low the Belt. It’s super soft, and can be cut to size.
  9. Mer-Sea wrap. It’s super soft, and is large enough to wrap around yourself on chilly plane flights or layer for those snow days I don’t get.

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Excuse the workout attire, I had already fit in my “fit” portion of they day before I opened the box.

As I said before, all of these items are great, but they’re full size! I cannot rave about these boxes enough, I even convinced my co-worker to order one. She is anxiously awaiting her box, so I said I’d share some spoilers here. Definitely look into it, I’ve gotten so many adorable/useful things from this box. Some I love, some are ok, but the point is, I get to really try them out and see if they work for me.

 

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