We Almost Made It
We’ve all been there. You like him, he likes you, you two have serious chemistry, and yet, you’re not officially dating yet. You hang out together, text and talk all the time, but neither of you has made a move past good friends. You’re in the Almost Relationship zone. This is very important, because from there, things go two ways. One of you makes a move, and you slip into relationship territory, or one of you makes a move, and something happens that changes the dynamic, and even that friendship suffers.
I’ve really only ever been on one side of that dynamic. For me, the almost relationships never seemed to quite work out, as far as when we started as friends and then tried to move on from there. I’m not sure why, since I am so much more comfortable with myself if we’ve been friends for a while, rather than jumping right into the dating game, yet that’s how all my relationships started, jumping in head first. Yet, in some cases, in those almost relationships, I feel like we had a better connection than some of the guys I’ve dated. I attribute that to the friendship that we developed before anything else happened. There’s almost something exciting about being in that point of your friendship, where you’re friends, but you both know it could easily develop into something more, if you just had the right timing. In my case, timing wasn’t on my side, so it wasn’t meant to be, but it was nice. I always had someone to text, someone who could make me smile and laugh about the silliest things. I could talk to him about a lot of different things, and I never felt stupid or out of place, it all just felt so natural. I can’t speak for him, but I’d hope the feeling was mutual as far as that goes, and that we made a good team for a little while. But then the friendship builds, and you hit a point where you have to decide what’s going to happen, where it’s going. Do you continue down the friendship path, or do you explore something new, something that could change things completely?
When you hit that fork in the road, you should really consider what it is you want. You clearly have feelings for this person, so do you want to go ahead and take the plunge? Or do you want to play it safe, keep the friendship going, and hope that maybe in a year or two, he will make a move? I’ve never been the most patient person, so to me, I didn’t want to wait years for something to happen. Plus, I was fairly confident that the feelings were mutual, so I really didn’t see this almost relationship ending in any way, except progressing into something real. Well, I definitely am not psychic, as my almost relationship ended and so did the friendship when I got up the nerve to say something. Which, any type of rejection hurts, but such is the game of life and love. Would we have ever worked out into anything if I had let the friendship run its course? I guess we’ll never know, but I like to think that things work out exactly the way they’re supposed to. However, that only happens if you’re willing to take a risk. Sure, my almost relationships didn’t go so well, but for others, it’s that moment of bravery when you reveal your feelings that the magic happens, and your happily ever after begins.
So, if you find yourself in one of those almost relationships, think hard about what you want. In life, we never know how long we have or what is going to be thrown our way, so it’s important to just live it how you want to. So, if you want to wait and see what develops in a few years, sit back and wait. If you want to take a risk, and roll the dice, then definitely go for it. You never know when that risk will pay off big time.