I’m a huge planner. I love making plans, whether it’s for brunch next Saturday or whether it’s planning my next five years. One thing I’ve learned though is that God’s plan and timing is so completely different than what you plan for yourself. You can make all the plans you want, but if He doesn’t want it to happen, then it’s not going to happen.
I had my whole life planned out. I was going to be engaged by 24, married with kids by 28, and so on and so forth. As I am 24 now, and completely unengaged, I don’t think my little life plan worked out the way it was supposed to. But that’s what happens when you plan something out that you have no control over. It sounds nice to think that you can make your life work out exactly how you want it, but the past few years have taught me that as much as I want to pretend I have control, I don’t. And that’s ok. Which, as a control freak, is a very difficult thing for me to say.
Don’t get me wrong, making plans is still a great thing to do. I’m all for listing out goals, and planning on doing something in a few years or figuring out the next steps in your life. I definitely still encourage that. But you have to learn to roll with what life dishes out. So sometimes, your plans get changed, and you can’t get too disappointed that it didn’t go according to plan, because really, what are you going to do about it? It’s disappointing when things don’t go the way we want, but it’s a part of life. In that disappointment, in that change of plans, you may find something even better came from it. I can say from personal experience that some of the best things in my life were not planned. I never planned on joining a sorority, but it brought me a life-long sisterhood and friends who have been there for me through thick and thin.
It makes us feel good to think that we have some semblance of control over our lives, but at the same time, we have to know that God is the one who is truly in charge. Sometimes, things go according to our plan because He wants it that way. Other times, He changes the plan and gives us something completely unexpected. I just like to think, that whenever my plans change in a certain way, it means that His plan is even better than mine. He sees much farther out, and knows that I need this to go on the right track, and that while I may want that now, I’ll be better off not getting it right now. It’s a difficult pill to swallow, but it’s so essential to living our lives.
Change can be scary, whether it’s changing jobs or realizing that your life has not gone according to plan. But it can also be an amazing thing, and can lead to something even better than you could have ever planned. You just have to keep the faith, and know that things will be ok in the end. Just trust in God’s timing, and in His plan, and it’ll all work out. He’s in control, and He always knows what’s best for us, even if it means making us wait a little longer than we’d like.