Fashion On a Budget

Sometimes being fashionable, while swimming in student loan debt, car payments, insurance, and everything else, can be a bit difficult. We all want to wear the designers we know and love, but we don’t necessarily want to pay that high price tag that comes with it. Luckily, there are many ways to get designer clothes, at bargain prices. Now, before you get too excited, you’re still going to have to pay a little more than you would at a normal sale. But, if you think about it, you are getting classic outfits that will last you for years. That trendy suede mini skirt will be out of fashion next season, but the shift dress will never go out of style. That right there is what makes it worth it to spend a little more now, because you will ultimately be saving yourself money in the long run.

So for all the budget-conscious fashionistas out there, here are some tips to save some money and still have a fabulous wardrobe.

  1. Buy during sales. Sure, that’s easier said than done, especially for some places like Lilly Pulitzer who doesn’t often have stuff on sale. But let me tell you, when they do the semi-annual sale, you get some amazing deals. I got a whole bunch of new items, dresses, tops, skirts, scarves, all for under $400. Now, for those who aren’t familiar with the brand, one full price dress can run for half of that. However, I know that while I’m spending the money ahead of time, I am getting work appropriate outfits for years to come. I also got a few nice dresses for the upcoming holiday season, since we all know dressing up for a Christmas party is mandatory.
  2. Buy from the outlets. Yes, yes, I know, the outlet isn’t necessarily what is fashionable this season. Who cares? When you’re buying from outlets like Steve Madden, you don’t need to have this season’s shoes, especially if you’re looking for a great pair of pumps for work. Or maybe you need a new pair of sandals for your weekends. Those items don’t change too much depending on the season, so you’re safe grabbing them in the outlet. Save some money, and get the amazing shoes.
  3. Buy from stores like Ross and TJ Maxx. You would be amazed at what you can find at these places if you try. For example, I just got a new Kate Spade crossbody bag for about $60, when it is normally around $150. That’s a steal! It’s gorgeous, and perfect for me, and I get the classic look her brand is all about. I couldn’t be happier with it. Plus, I know it’s a bag that’s going to be around for a while.
  4. Build a capsule wardrobe. For those who aren’t sure what I mean by this, a capsule wardrobe is full of the classic staples that every woman needs in her closet. So that means a little black dress, a great interview suit, some solid button down shirts, etc. I’m not saying throw out your crop tops, but spend your money where it will be most beneficial to you. Spending a little more on a great suit means that you will look great, and your confidence will help you nail that job interview.
Another great way to always have an amazing outfit, but without having to have all designer pieces, is to choose certain pieces to accent others. Ok, so for example, let’s say I have a basic black skirt from Macy’s, and I pair it with a dressy top from Express, and my beautiful new Kate Spade purse. Add a nice pair of no-name flats, and I have a cute, work appropriate outfit that will get plenty of compliments. Sure, the skirt is a no-name, but I went with a cute top, and a great purse, and those pieces are what make the outfit pop. In some cases, whether it’s a brand name or not, it’s just a great wardrobe piece to have. A solid black skirt being one of those. I got compliments on my outfit, and I felt great about it. I stood out and looked great, while spending the money on certain pieces, not the entire thing. Same thing with an awesome Lilly dress. Find a great shift, add a cute pair of wedges and a clutch, no name or not, and you have a beautiful outfit that will catch everyone’s eye. You don’t have to be in designer from head to toe to still look great. Just grab the right pieces, and your wardrobe will thank you.

Skinny Bitches Need To Workout Too

I am a skinny bitch. I am naturally thin, have always been my whole life. Ever since I was a kid, I remember hoping that at my annual doctor appointment, I would be at the normal weight, and every time, I was told I was underweight. I would eat a ton, but as I got older, the talks turned into warnings about anorexia and bulimia, which was ridiculous to me. I was eating plenty, you could ask anyone I know, in high school I could eat a whole large pizza by myself, it just wouldn’t show on me. My dad is super thin, as is my mom, and it’s just something that runs in my family. I’ve always tried to be fairly healthy, despite the fact I am one of those lucky enough to be able to eat whatever I want. The point of this, is that today my coworker and I were talking, and he was asking about my routine after work, and I mentioned that I was going to workout on the treadmill. He then asked why I needed to workout, I’m so skinny. Let me tell you, I do get tired of hearing that. Yes, I am thin, I know this, anyone who looks at me knows this. Apparently what isn’t common knowledge is that I still have to workout, just like every other person who wants to live a healthy lifestyle.

I don’t workout to burn calories, and I certainly don’t count calories, but as my title says, “skinny bitches need to workout too.” For my overall health, I still have to exercise and eat right, otherwise I could get high blood pressure, and heart issues, same as anyone else. I love my body for certain things, and I dislike it at the same time. Unlike some others, my body doesn’t necessarily give me an indication of when I need to workout a bit more, because I don’t really gain weight. The only time I’ve noticed any actual gain, is when I’m building muscle. Now, that’s good too, but it doesn’t help me out if I have something going on that isn’t quite right medically. So because of that, I have to be careful to still eat right, and exercise each day. I would say I’m fairly health conscious, though I do love my cookie dough ice cream, and I pretty much always have been. However, with that being said, I don’t necessarily enjoy working out all the time. I am not someone who has ever gotten runner’s high, and quite frankly there are many days I would rather sit on my butt eating junk food than go run on the treadmill. However, I know it’s best for me, so I do it anyway.

What gets frustrating are the accusations that I am anorexic or working out too much or too hard, because I’m already so thin, I don’t need to anymore. I’ve talked with doctors, they wouldn’t say that I should never exercise just because I’m skinny. Everyone should exercise for the health benefits. I feel better, and I know that my inside is as healthy as my outside appears. As someone who has a family with high blood pressure, I want to ensure that I don’t have issues to deal with later on down the road, and a good start is the treadmill. It also is fantastic for stress relief. While I usually don’t live such a stress-filled life, this past year has been very stressful and hard on me and my family, and a great relief has been exercise. Sure, I gripe and complain about it, but when I feel less stressed and better, it makes it all worth it.

So, yes, I am a skinny bitch. I know what people call me, I’m not naive enough to think it’s not said. But you know what, I may have a metabolism that helps me out now, but I’m building up healthy habits that will help me if it ever slows down. I don’t know what the future holds, but I do know I want to take it on as a healthy version of myself, even if that means working out when I don’t want to.

Take It Slow

Relationships are weird. I mean, think about it. You meet someone who was, at some point, a total stranger and you just decide “hmm I think I want to spend more and more time with that person.” Then, as you do spend more time together and talk more, you realize you have a lot in common, you seem to have this “connection,” not that anyone can ever say what that really is, and you decide to date. Or he/she isn’t interested, so you get your heart stomped on. It just depends on the situation. If you’re lucky, they feel the same way about you. But it’s hard to say, some relationships take weeks and months (even years in some cases!) to develop, while others seem to happen overnight. It makes figuring out timing very difficult.

I can only speak from my personal experience and what I’ve seen with friends, so this is by no means all encompassing, but it’s my opinion. Relationships tend to be better, and last longer, if you take things slow. If you go too fast, they tend to burn out. It’s the concept of starting out as friends. I mean, if you can stand to be friends with someone for a while, they haven’t done anything to drive you off. So there’s something about them that you like. Whereas, if you jump into a relationship first, it can be more difficult to have that friendship, especially if you find some things you don’t like about them, but you’re already dating, so you feel like you should invest more time in something that maybe you shouldn’t be in.

Now, I’ve said before that if you like someone, you shouldn’t play those silly games, and I do stand by that. However, I also don’t think you should rush into something. Sure, part of dating is getting to know someone, I get that, and I think it makes sense. Sometimes you can just tell on a first date if it’s going to work out or not, and if you’re more interested in dating than a relationship, this is a great way to do things. If you’re looking for something a little more, then I suggest taking things a lot slower, and spending more time together first as friends. And sometimes it’s hard to wait, if you’ve liked someone for a while, but you’re still having a hard time reading the situation, it can be difficult, because you want to share your feelings, but no one likes being rejected. Sometimes though, it’s best to let nature take its course, and take things slowly to see what develops from it. If you’re friends, then you at least have the chance to keep your friendship intact. If you rush into things, you may not even have that. And if you really like the person, then you don’t want to lose the friendship.

Sometimes we are forced to take things slow because the timing isn’t right. Maybe you were friends years ago, and you liked this person then, but things change, someone moves or is in another relationship. So you put the feelings on the back burner, and then something changes. They somehow come back into your life again, but maybe the timing still isn’t right. Rather than trying to rush something that may not work due to geographical location or life circumstances, just keep the friendship going. Don’t push for more if you or the other person aren’t really ready for something like that. Instead, be content being friends and learning more about the other person. If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen. One thing I’ve learned is that if God wants it to happen, it’s going to happen. It may not be on your time calendar, but it’s on His, and He ultimately knows what is best.

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