Have you ever noticed that some people seem to just ooze confidence? They just seem so sure of themselves, and no matter who they are or what they look like, people stop and take notice, because of their attitude. They seem to walk with this total confidence and knowledge about themselves and when they walk into the room, you just automatically feel this pull to them, like they are the leader even if they aren’t.
Well, I’ve definitely noticed, and I’ve also noticed what happens when people kind of shuffle in, without an ounce of self-confidence. They tend to blend into the background and instead just are there. They don’t command the attention of the room, sometimes people don’t even notice that they are in there. It can happen if they are alone, or with a group, they just kind of fade into the background and no one really notices them. Then, if they do try to speak up, they usually do not get the same amount of respect that someone who is a little more confident gets.
So it seems, confidence is the best attribute you can have, in all aspects of your life. Be confident in who you are, what you are doing, and that you are a leader. But of course, all of that is much easier said than done. I know, depending on the day I’m super confident in myself, and then other days I have absolutely no self-confidence in my ability to do anything. And I can assure you, it does make a difference. This happens at work, with friends, even just at the store. It’s amazing what can happen when you add a bit of self-confidence to your life. For example, one thing I learned in one of my high school AP classes was that even if you are wrong about something, go ahead and be confident in your wrongness. Now, I don’t think my teacher meant that you should decide you’re right even if you’re wrong and you’re going to argue with people about it and never concede that you are in fact incorrect; instead, what I think she meant was, to have a good reasoning to back it up, and even if you are wrong, to stand confidently. Sure, you may be wrong and someone may point that out, but you don’t have to let that affect your confidence. People are wrong and make mistakes all the time, it’s a fact of life. But if you are saying something, or believing in something, then believe in it. Be confident that you are right, and who knows, you may even change someone’s mind on that topic. Even if you don’t, generally the fact that you are so confident in your ability will impress the other person, even if you’re not 100% correct about what you’re saying. It’s the trick of politicians in a way. They are so confident in themselves, even when they aren’t right about an issue.
A great trick to help you get a quick boost of confidence is by taking the superhero pose. So go ahead, stand with your hands on your hips and stand tall. Believe it or not, this helps you mentally, and I did it before a job interview, and I got the job. Sure, you look silly, I suggest doing it in a bathroom or at the house before your interview, that way no one sees you, but it works. It gives a quick boost of confidence, and it also ties in with body language. A big thing that confident people have is partly their body language. When you are confident, you take up more space, you stand taller, and you spread out more. When you are a bit more timid, you take up less space, and you just squeeze into small spaces. With this, you are taking up more space, and you are making a change, you are actually giving yourself a confidence boost.
I know having confidence in anything is a lot easier said than done. I struggled with confidence in my looks a lot during high school. I felt I wasn’t the prettiest, and because of that, I carried myself that way. I didn’t stand tall, and even though people told me I was pretty, I didn’t really feel like it not compared to (fill in the blank).Well, I colored my hair, got a slight confidence boost, and decided I wanted to enter the acting and pageant world. I wasn’t sure about it, but I was feeling slightly more confident, and wanted to give it a try. Well, it was a little rough at the beginning, especially when I didn’t win the pageant, and when I wasn’t able to get a job. I was told it always came down to me and another girl. The other girl always got the job. It sucked, and it didn’t help my confidence. But then I realized some things. When it comes to acting and modeling, the casting directors usually have an idea of what they are looking for in their heads, before they even see a single girl for the part. Once I realized that, it became much easier to enter a casting and hear them talk about me (too short, not the right hair color, etc.). Well, I also realized with certain things like my height, that I can’t really change that. So I stopped caring. I am average height, I will never be a runway model, and that’s ok. I was created this way, nothing I can do to change it, so I just learned to accept it. Once I realized this, I got more confidence in my acting ability, and in my looks, and soon after, I started getting some jobs. From there, my confidence grew. Now, even if I don’t get the job, I still am confident in my abilities and in my looks. I am me, and that’s perfectly fine, if it’s meant to be, I will get the job.
Finding this confidence wasn’t easy, but it made me so much happier when I did find it. I walk taller, and am more confident in so many aspects of my life. So go pose like a superhero, you never know what you can do with your newfound confidence.