Why I Remain The Perpetually Single Girl
I have been perpetually single my whole life. I date here and there, but it never seems to last long, or work out, and usually it’s me that feels it isn’t working out. That’s because I am a hopeless romantic at heart, and I have extremely high expectations. Now, maybe you’ll say I’m just picky or even that I have my expectations set too high. That’s your opinion and you’re welcome to it.
Now here’s my point of view. I don’t play games. I think playing hard to get is dumb, if I like you and you like me, I don’t see the point in playing games and hard to get, and acting like you’re not interested. If you act like you’re not interested, I’m not going to waste my time on you. You’re sending me signals that you don’t want anything more, and I’m going to respect that and protect my heart. I also don’t think it’s fair to string anyone along, so I try not to do it, and it just causes pain for the person being led on. I’ve been led on before, it’s not fun, especially if you’ve fallen for that person. It almost hurts worst than if they just acted uninterested or said they weren’t because then you didn’t have the false hope that it was going to work out. Instead, just say not interested, and then the interested party will have a chance to move on. But don’t talk about getting together all the time, or act like you’re interested if you’re just bored.
I am not the girl who will sleep with you on the first date. If that is all you’re interested in, then please move along and make way for someone who is actually interested in getting to know me. I value myself and my body more than to just give that away after one date. Sorry to disappoint, but I have a belief system that puts that on a high level, and it’s something that should be done with someone you love, not a random stranger. If you want that right away, you’ve found the wrong girl. That ended quite a few potential relationships for me, which is fine. I need someone who actually cares about me, not just getting in my pants. Again, those high standards kicking in.
I will continue living my life, and I want you to keep living yours too. I am not going to cancel my girls night outs just because you don’t want me getting drinks with my friends. Too bad, I have friends, not all of them are in relationships, and I’m not going to abandon them because you want me to. I don’t want you to cancel guy’s nights either. We are both adults in this relationship, which means there is a certain level of trust. I will trust you until you show me a reason not to. I need you to do the same and trust that I would never cheat on you. That means, I don’t want to have you texting me all night when I said I was out with my friends. Trust me that I’m out with my girlfriends just having a good time.
If I’m in a relationship with someone, I want to talk to them. Not all the time, and I understand life is hectic, and we can’t talk on the phone every day. That being said, I will lose my patience with you if you are constantly calling or texting. If I said I have to work, then I have to work. Don’t call me during work hours just to chat, that’s just going to piss me off. I respect your boundaries, you have to respect mine too.
Maybe I am too picky, maybe I expect too much of guys, I’m not sure which it is, and honestly I don’t care. That is who I am and how I feel, and I am not going to compromise myself or my beliefs just to be in a relationship. I tried that once, said it didn’t matter, and guess what, that relationship ended badly. I tried to compromise who I was, and say it didn’t matter, but it did, and whether he knew it or not, he could tell.
I don’t mind being single right now, because I am a hopeless romantic, and I believe the man who doesn’t play games, isn’t clingy or controlling, and just wants me for me is out there. I haven’t met him yet, or maybe I have and it just wasn’t meant to be then. Either way, I believe that I will find him, maybe not now, maybe in a week. And it’ll be great, because neither of us will compromise on anything. He will be able to be himself, and I will be able to be myself too. And that to me, is one of the most important parts. And until I find him, I’m not going to fall in the trap of attempting to find someone. When it’s meant to be, it will happen. I have faith in that.